Women (not all) are not needy, they are Human. As are men.

I do not want to state, that there are no people with serious psychological problems in life, or That no one has real issues resulting from their past experiences in life. But we have to consider our human nature in relationships. We have to consider that maybe all women, are not needy and clingy and simply just being human...

Even the strongest most independent woman or man will need reassurance in a relationship. They may act like they don't need it, or never say anything, but we all need it.

Men are taught since they are children, that needing someone and being emotional, is not manly. That men are logical not emotional. But they are also human beings, with emotional needs and they do have needs for reassurance, love and nurture, it is simply filed away, or pushed down in their mind, as to Not appear weak. If they consider those teachings and think how they would be without those teachings, they would not be afraid to ask for a hug, or affection, or to cry when they are going through painful times.

We as human beings, not Men, or Women, but Human beings, have the same needs, whether they are repressed or not, women are simply more open about them and some do not have any problems expressing them. When men learn to recognize their upbringing and learn to realize that women are not brought up to repress their needs and wants, men will be able to understand they are not so much different.

Needing love and asking for it, does not make them needy or clingy. Most human beings need reassurance, love and attention, men as human beings do as well. Humans need each other and they need to know that their relationship will stay constant and reliable.

We also change and grow as people and we need to observe each other as we change and grow. We need to pay attention, so that we may find a way to make our individual growth, work for the couple as a whole. If we are too busy to notice, to pay attention to the direction our relationship is taking, we will grow apart.

If we don't take the time to stop and see, where is our partners growth and personal development is taking us both, we will miss the chance to see how we will fit in to our life together. I can guarantee you that not one relationship stays the same.Every relationship changes, every individual grows, matures and changes.

In all relationships each person grows and keeps changing, the idea is to observe, keep track of those changes and see how they "can work together for the couple", how those changes of each individual, can benefit both?

If no one is watching what is happening to their partner, how are they supposed to know how to grow with them, or support them, because if your growth is going in another direction, if you don't work at the right time to make it work and fit nicely together, you will miss the chance to make it together?

We need people in our life, it is human nature, we need nurture, we need to be held and loved. That is human nature and this psycho babble I hear from other professionals, makes me very upset. Why is it that someone isolated from human contact, any one, goes completely insane in just a couple of weeks? That is our nature.

This crap about "making Yourself happy" is bullocks. Don't try to explain our natural human behavior Away, explain our natural human behavior and make people more tolerant and accepting. Knowing that we go insane without human contact, as human beings, "they" have "relationships" completely wrong.

We need to help people understand and learn compassion and help people not be so hasty to judge, but "understand". Truly understand.